Saturday, June 11, 2011

Happy Birthday Old Glory

June 14 is a special day and a special birthday that all Americans should celebrate. Flag Day is the birthday of the flag of our country. On June 14, 1777 the second Continental Congress adopted the flag of the United States of America.
Flag Day is not an official national holiday and only one state, Pennsylvania, observes Flag Day as a state holiday. The first flag birthday was celebrated on June 14, 1885 by schoolteacher B. J. Cigrand in an elementary school in Fredonia, Wisconsin. In numerous magazines, newspaper articles and public addresses for years to come, Cigrand continued to advocate the observance of June 14 as “flag birthday” or Flag Day. In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed June 14 as Flag Day. Still it wasn't until many years later, on August 3, 1949, that June 14 became known as National Flag Day when President Harry S Truman signed an act of Congress.
On June 14, 1908, while dining just outside of Philadelphia, Theodore Roosevelt noticed a man wiping his nose with what he thought was an American flag. In outrage, Roosevelt picked up a small wooden rod and began to beat the man for defacing the symbol of America. After about five or six whacks, he noticed that the man was not wiping his nose with the flag, but with a blue handkerchief with white stars. Once Roosevelt realized this he apologized to the man and then hit him once more for making him “Riled with National Pride.”
In her 234 years of history, Old Glory has seen the world and beyond. One memory I have from the history books is a picture of Francis Scott key looking at Fort McHenry while the British bombarded the Fort. He was very anxious all through the night and when morning came and the American flag was still standing he wrote the Star-Spangled Banner. The original title was Defence of Fort M’Henry” and was sung to an old English drinking song.
The next picture I remember of Old Glory is of the five Marines and one Navy corpsman raising the flag on Iwo Jima on February 23, 1945. This photograph is one of the most significant and recognizable images from World War II. It is probably the most reproduced picture of all time.
Growing up in the 1960s I witnessed Old Glory at her highs and her lows. I recall the images of anti-war protesters burning the flag and doing other vile things to her at these demonstrations. I love America and I was saddened by these things and couldn't understand why people were burning our flag. Where was Teddy Roosevelt when you needed him?
On November 22, 1963, President John F. Kennedy was assassinated in Dallas, Texas. I remember being excused from school and the flag being lowered to half staff. For the next couple of days, all the TV stations showed the President's flag draped casket in the Capitol Rotunda. Thousands, if not millions of people filed past the casket to pay their last respects to the late President. I remember the President being carried out of the Capitol building and being placed on the same horse drawn wagon as Abraham Lincoln many years earlier. My family and I were glued to the TV as we watched the procession to Arlington National Cemetery. They will reach the President's final resting spot, Old Glory was removed from the casket, folded, and presented to Mrs. Kennedy. This is the saddest memory I have of our flag.
In 1969, the Stars and Stripes regained her glory. On July 20, 1969 Apollo 11 landed on the Moon. I remember watching this on television when Neil Armstrong said those famous words, “That's one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.”  Before Buzz Aldrin and Neil Armstrong left the Moon they planted the flag on the surface. America won the race to the Moon. What a great accomplishment for America and Old Glory.
At a baseball game at Dodger Stadium in the 1970s, two young men ran out to centerfield with matches and lighter fluid and tried to burn the American flag. When Cubs player, Rick Monday, saw what they were trying to do, he ran from his position in the outfield and grabbed Old Glory away from them before it started on fire. This was a great show of patriotism and some people say that it is “the greatest catch in baseball history.”
Finally, I will never forget the photograph by Thomas Franklin taken on 9/11 that captured an unforgettable image of hope. Three firefighters raising the American flag. Standing defiantly against the gray and white landscape of devastation, these dust covered men and the vivid red, white and blue of Old Glory instantly became a symbol of American patriotism. This photo also sent a global message that life and America would go on.
Our flag means different things to different people. To some it is hope for freedom. To others it is a threat or a symbol of democracy they cannot tolerate. To me this is a symbol of the greatest country on Earth. The land of the free and the home of the brave. As she is grown older, Old Glory has seen the good and the bad. She has seen the four corners of the world and has ventured into outer space. She has been shot at, spat on, stepped on, torn, and burned. Yet she still waves proudly wherever she goes. So as we approach Flag Day and Fourth of July, I ask you to pause for a moment especially on her 234th birthday, when you see Old Glory and think about what she means to you, and wish her a happy birthday.
Give something of yourself to people every day… Smile and watch the magic happen.

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Networking Skills in Today's World

Today I went to a training Toastmasters International, Founder’s District, for its incoming leaders. I am very privileged to be the President-elect for the next term of one of the Toastmaster clubs here in Garden Grove.  The last workshop of the day was ”Networking in 2011 and beyond. “ This is not about computers and networks, it was about people networking people which is something that need to get back to.
Networking today is not about just handing out business cards promoting yourself and your products, or just going to the Mega-network events. It is about building relationships, forming a support group, and creating a list of advisors. So you may ask yourself, why is this important? It is important because in today's world you don't have to know everything as long as you know the people who do. And these are the people in your network.
The relationship is different now as well. When networking began it was let me sell my product and let me tell you what I do. Today's networking is different, it is a relationship. It is a personal interaction, and it is helping the other person. To be a good networking star in today's world you have to listen more than you talk. You have to be a story trader rather than a storyteller. Use “Really!? Tell me more…” To get the most from the people you are networking with. I'm not sure who the quote is from but it is, “The more you talk... The more you sound like everyone else!”
People accurately perceive extroversion after being exposed to a face for only 50 milliseconds. The Journal of Research in Personality states, “Extroversion was related to cues that had a positive effect on popularity; fashionable appearance; speedy, energetic and self-assured body movements; friendly facial expressions, cheerfulness, strong voice; and original self-introductions.”
At a networking event look for reasons to exchange business cards rather than just automatically exchanging them. Be alert for ways to move the relationship from the networking event to the future. This is where good listening skills come in and you can see on what a person says and then exchange the business card. Get the people to like you first then the sales will come later.
After you do make a connection with someone at a networking event make sure you follow up follow-up soon to connect using social media sites such as Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Or you can always pick up the phone and say, “Hello.”  If you say that you're going to call someone back, call them back. What you don't want to do at a networking event is go with a friend. If you go with only one friend you will end up hanging out with that friend the whole night and not really do anything networking. Don't monopolize the conversation, remember people like to hear themselves talk. So let them talk you listen. Don't go there to sell. Once you create the relationship the sales will come. And don't be a business card dispensing machine.
When you go to the networking events as you walk in the door say to yourself something positive. Walk in and have a good attitude when you enter that room. Be prepared, read the Wall Street Journal and Time magazine or the local newspaper and know what the headlines were for the past two or three days. This will help you to have a conversation bits and pieces to use while networking.
One final thought the instructor gave us as we were leaving is, “The law of probability insurers that some more new people you know, the more opportunities will come your way and no more help you'll get at critical junctures in your career.”
Give something of yourself to people every day… Smile and watch the magic happen.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Talk Don't Text

There are many forms of communication in today's world. We have verbal, nonverbal, technological and in person. I believe that we are losing the ability to communicate in person because of technology. It has become so easy to type a few words on the computer or the phone, maybe even leave a voicemail and move on. Communication is more than that. We have eyes, ears, a mouth and the whole body to communicate with and we are not using these tools when we just type a quick message and assume the other party received and understood the message. We have no way of knowing that electronic message was received or how it was received. We don't know what mood the recipient was in when he received our message. We need to get back to communicating with our voices. So much is lost with short, text bursts. I can't remember how many times I had to say, “The heck with e-mail,” and pick up the phone and call the other party to get my message across. I know that e-mail, text, twitter, voicemail are here to stay and they are valuable tools but they are just that, tools. The next time you have an important message to convey, or you are frustrated when your message just isn't being heard, pick up the phone and call or better yet, visit the recipient can talk in person. If you remove the barriers you will communicate more effectively.
Give something of yourself to people every day… Smile and watch the magic happen.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Faith, Love, and Healing

It is not my intention for this blog to become a religious blog, however, I do believe that God and man work together in business, health, and life. God and faith healed me when I was very ill in 2007. Back in 2007 I was doing a lot of traveling for my former employer. I was in Seattle, Washington and I felt like I had indigestion. I didn't eat dinner that night and I just went to bed. I woke up the next morning and tried to go to work, but went back to bed. As soon as I gathered my thoughts I booked the next flight home and upon my arrival my wife took me directly to the emergency room. After a battery of tests the doctors discovered that I had a staph infection in my backbone. This is a very serious illness and some other folks have died from it. Many people had me with one foot in the grave. I knew I was going to make it, but the one person who never had a doubt was my beautiful wife Carmen. She knew in her heart that God and the doctors would heal me. Several people thought that Carmen was not worried enough about me. But she knew in her heart that God had me in his hands and that I would be all right. After a week in the hospital I was released with a PIC line and orders to inject an IV antibiotic into this PIC line morning, noon, and night. My wife did this for me every day for six weeks, never complaining, with only positive words of healing and a smile. Then there was the year of oral antibiotics, prayer, doctor visits, and the support of my family. Today I am cured and I owe this to the science of the doctors, the love of my wife, and the healing powers of God. God wants to be partners with us in all areas of our lives. I am living proof of this. Beginning each day with a positive outlook, ask God to be your partner, and you will experience when Louis Armstrong sang about many years ago, “What a wonderful world.”     
Give something of yourself to people every day… Smile and watch the magic happen.

Friday, April 29, 2011

Stuff Bubbles Up

Sometimes in life “stuff” just bubbles up when we least expect it. This happened to us this morning. The toilet, bath tub, and a drain in the backyard were bubbling over with “stuff”. To make matters worse, we had a house full of visitors and our pipes were backed up. Well, I called the plumber and he was here in an hour. He tried the old-fashioned snake but it couldn't clear the line. So they had to bring in the “Super Rooter” and it uses 3500 psi of water pressure to cut the roots and clear the drain. It was a bit stressful but we had fun blaming the last person, who will remain anonymous, to use the restroom for plugging up the pipes. Laughing about the situation and realizing that sometimes “stuff” just bubbles up, relieved the stress and tension. I now have a “colonoscopy” type DVD of the main sewer line and thank goodness the pipes are clear. Keep a positive attitude and smile when “stuff” bubbles up in life. A positive attitude makes the “stuff” less stressful and resolves the problem quicker.  
Give something of yourself to people every day… Smile and watch the magic happen.

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Start your day with a Smile

Hello world and welcome to my blog. I have been reading a lot about attitude lately and how the way we think will determine how our day goes. If you start your day with a good attitude, you will have a good day. Start your day with a bad attitude and most likely your day will have difficulties, more than if your attitude is good. Your thoughts, the mental picture each morning sets the tone for the day. How can you start with a good attitude? Smile! Instead of cussing at the alarm clock, I have done this, wake up and smile for the great day that is about to begin. As you go about your day, smile at the people you meet. In my experience, one of two things will happen. The other person will smile back and say good morning or… The other person will be shocked that someone noticed him and he will know that someone cares. Smile and make someone's day.
Give something of yourself to people every day… Smile and watch the magic happen.